Over the past several weeks, as I have thought about what I want my life to look like now that we are officially in the launching stage, it has become increasingly apparent that I need to make a few changes. Blogging has been a huge part of my life for the past few years and, if you have been following me for a while, you know that I have struggled to maintain enthusiasm for this work because it zaps my energy in a big way.
I don’t want to walk away from blogging for reasons that I won’t get into now, so a shift in direction is necessary for me to maintain my sanity and keep my energy levels in check. Consequently, this blog will look and feel a little different from here on out. You can expect to see the following changes:
1. More Parenting Ideas
When I started blogging, I did so with the intent to write almost exclusively about parenting. I am SUPER passionate about raising kids and have strong opinions on how to approach that enormous task.
Because of my enthusiasm (and maybe intensity), I inadvertently offended a few people who were raising their kids differently than I. Some of those people were close to me (in my family), and I ultimately decided it wasn’t worth it. I didn’t want to walk on eggshells or upset people with different opinions, and I couldn’t see a way to accomplish that while writing about a topic that I’m pretty sure was written into my DNA; that is how strongly I feel about it.
So I stopped writing about the specifics of raising children, opting instead for a more general “feel good” approach to parenting posts. That kept people happy, which was what I hoped to accomplish at that time.
But the fact remains that my parenting philosophy is inextricably connected with the woman I am in this stage of life. It drives every single decision I make regarding my children, and sometimes I want to shout it from the rooftops.
I have worked hard to become more open-minded about this topic in the past few years, and I freely admit that my way is not the “right” way or the only way. I am well aware that many parenting avenues produce amazing kids, and that I am not a parenting expert in any way, shape, or form.
However, the child-rearing principles that I adhere to are working very well for my family, and I believe they could work for many others also. So I’m going to stop worrying about making everybody happy and start opening up about how I raise my kids.
Don’t worry; I won’t judge you for choosing a different parenting path. We can still be friends.
(And, by the way, I believe parenting is more a matter of common sense than psychology. I will expound on that later, but I wanted to let you know where I will be coming from.)
2. Let’s Get Organized
There was a time when I tried to convince myself that I was a free-spirit who didn’t like structure and could easily skip along and go with the flow. Then I realized that I subconsciously organize my groceries when I put them on the conveyor belt at the register because I want similar things to end up in the same bag. That makes putting things away so much more efficient, you know?!?
Organizing on the fly is not the hallmark of a free spirit! I was kidding myself.
I have since realized (or finally admitted to myself) that I crave structure, routine, and organization like I crave chocolate. (That is a lot!) I may not be the best at organizing my time on paper (still not a huge fan of planners), but I have a high degree of mental organization, and creating order out of chaos is something I do instinctively. It is immensely fulfilling on a level that is hard to explain.
Messy closet? Bring it on!
Drawers and cupboards look like a tornado hit? I’m on it!
Clutter driving you crazy? I can help!
I have tons of organizational projects that I have put on the back burner because I was spending a great deal of time weighing and writing about my feelings. It is time to put the introspection on hold and tackle some real life projects.
I have learned in recent weeks that I am much happier and more content when I am actively doing something rather than attempting to take inventory of my life’s purpose through contemplation and self-reflection. I don’t only enjoy action (as in physically moving around and working to accomplish a task) – I need it. It gives me more energy and a whole lot of satisfaction. It keeps me grounded.
So I’m going to work on getting organized, one step at a time. I plan to share tips, tricks, and helpful ideas along the way, for those who may be interested in taming the chaos in their lives.
3. More Practicality; Less Emotion
I recently learned something very important about myself: I operate best in the realm of logic, not emotion. Therefore, constantly writing about emotional things drains me in a hurry.
To continue blogging without always feeling depleted, I must focus on my strengths instead of my weaknesses. In my world, practicality is king, so you can expect to see a more practical spin on my writing and less focus on how I feel about things.
In addition to the things I already outlined, I may play around with some other forums that currently scare me to death (video, Facebook live, Instagram stories…). I feel like I need to adapt to a changing Internet culture, but that is going to take me WAY outside of my comfort zone. I will keep you posted there.
I am ready for a new adventure. Will you join me?